Germany part drei?

Guten Morgen…
I have arrived in Germany, as I think my last post has stated. I am seemingly over the jet lag at this point, although it is 7:45 here and I am fast away, writing on the blog for my loyal reader(s).

Here are some pics of Lili and Wesseling, where her parents live.



The planning of the wedding is coming along nicely. Now that I am here in Germany, Lili and I both feel much more connected and more at peace with the current situation that is happening with my job. We are a team and we will get through this slightly rocky part of the journey. Its pretty amazing when you spend your adult life fending for yourself to then move into a shared situation where you have dual incomes and dual responsibility–now when I make a mistake, I have two people to answer to.

It’s a great feeling and it has been such a long journey to get to this point, for me and for her and for us. I have spent many years with many different partners and a lot of time as a single guy and in that time you really learn a lot of good and bad traits, some of which work when you carry them over to a new relationship but most of them do not.

I have been thinking a lot about the level of commitment that a relationship takes on and it makes me wonder why it is so difficult now to maintain that relationship, why so many of them fail. People are getting more and more commitment phobic, I think I was for a lot of years, but now everything seems so natural with Lili that I couldn’t imagine not being on the track to marriage.

Then again, I don’t know if I would have considered marriage when I did, if it wasn’t for the visa process and knowing that we would need to get married if we really wanted to be together. Don’t take that the wrong way, but I think its the American in me that has a fear of marriage because of all the baggage that is associated with it, which was all in my head, but I think its a generational thing and to a certain extent, a regional issue as well. Seattle has a lot of single people and dating is quite difficult. This is something I never really thought of until I moved to Alabama, which is a huge kid factory–there are kids everywhere and its refreshing to see. (Except that really young parents, which there seems to be a lot of as well.)

Seattle doesn’t have that much of the baby boom because of the cost of living and because its being built into a condo town–and condo’s are not the best place to raise a family. So, perhaps I was a product of my enviroment, after all I did have to get out of the city, into another country, China, to meet the woman that I was convinced fairly early on would be the mother of my children.

One last comment on this whole thing, when you are removed from your comfort zone, as I was from Seattle, this is when you really discover what you truly are made of.

On my way to Germania on Sunday

I just booked a flight to Frankfurt, arriving at 7am on Sunday morning. I have never needed to get out of an area than this moment. It difficult to come to terms with how badly this deal has worked out, how political jobs can be at times. Everyone makes mistakes, but this time, no mistakes were made and I feel like I am imprisioned. I have decided to run off to Germany as the wedding is a month away and there is little chance that I will be working until after the wedding.

The time here has been dark, even though the sun shines brighter here than anywhere I have been since Thailand.

…More later.

I heard from an old friend today from China whose family lives in Sichuan province, where the recent earthquake hit. One of her Uncles (I am not sure if this is a real Uncle as the Chinese commonly refer to male friends of the family as uncle) two sons were both killed in earthquake and only one of the bodies has been recovered.

Things like this should not happen on such a tragic scale anywhere in the world, but it will continue to occur in China as they march at alarming rates toward industrialization. Here’s why: The Chinese are going through their own modern day renessiance. building at alarming rates with no attention to structural intregrety or safety–all of these things will come later in the modernization of China, when the stuff that they built to get through the building process collapses and they realize that building need to be made safer.

This is the thing that saddens me so much about the Chinese system of government. Throughout China, a quake of that size would cause the same amount of problems throughout the country because everything is designed in the same manner, quickly. The government has spent billions on the upcoming Olympic games, in order to show the world that China has come into the new age of technology. This instance of a natural tragedy shows that while the major cities like Beijing and Shanghai might be modern, but the majority of the country lives in constant danger and poverty.

I think that we also have blood on our hands. What is still happening with Hurricane Katrina here in the Gulf region is just sickening, but we are faced with the same problems that China is. Here we are, the richest country in the world (and the most in debt) and our advanced systems of government, which allow for corporate oil tycoon failures to be president, this government can not come together and make good decisions about the people of New Orleans and its surrounding areas. New Orleans is now the most dangerous part of the country, surpassing Detroit.

This is what makes tragic events like this so sad: Our governments, no matter what focus they claim to have, either as a democracy or a communist society, our governments continue to painfully ignore the really pressing issues of our times. I am so sorry for my former students loss. We as a society have got to begin to change the way that capitalism is in the drivers seat of our lives.